Questions To Ask Before Having a Baby

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Motherhood happened to me before I cottoned on to it; it pretty much caught me unawares. I was not interested in learning much about the new journey I’d embarked on when I got pregnant. The physical changes I went through astounded me, but work and housework kept me occupied enough to not really think much about what was happening to me.

And then the baby arrived … and I had to woman up and deal with it. Boy, was I unprepared or what? I had bought some pregnancy related books from a children’s charity shop, but I never made time to read them.

In hindsight, there are so many questions I wished I had asked and found out the answers to. These would have made the motherhood road in the early days, weeks, and months a bit easier.

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Indeed, considering the humongous resulting life changes, you would think that ALL parents would invest time in getting prepared for the parenting road as much as possible.
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Below are a few questions that I considered, and many that I wish I had investigated before having my baby; knowing their answers would have definitely made a difference to my experience of mothering after giving birth. I would have felt informed and somewhat empowered. I would have had a lot more idea about some of what to expect.

Having a baby is one situation where knowledge is definitely power. The knowledge of key facts most definitely reduces the shock to one’s system, and takes some edge of the feelings of vulnerability and helplessness.

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Knowing about the pain, tiredness, confusion, sleepless nights etc that awaits doesn’t reduce them, but it can help to be more mentally prepared to deal with them.
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About my changes in my body

  1. What should I know about the physical changes my body will go through?
  2. When and where should I go for a bra fitting?
  3. What kind of bras could I use pre and postnatal?
  4. What kind of clothes should I wear as my bump grows?
  5. Should I wear bras if I’m breastfeeding every few hours?

About Breastfeeding

  1. How does breastfeeding actually work?
  2. What is ‘normal’ in breastfeeding and what isn’t?
  3. What breastfeeding support is available in my area?
  4. What breastfeeding resources are helpful to be aware of?
  5. What are some common breastfeeding problems and their solutions?

About giving birth

  1. What are my birth options?
  2. What is a birth plan about and should I write one?
  3. What happens if I go past my due date?
  4. What’s the labour process like?
  5. How does my midwife support me when I’m in labour?

 

About Postnatal Care

  1. What happens after I have my baby at the hospital?
  2. What NHS support is available to me when I return home?
  3. What happens with my midwife appointments after I give birth?
  4. Who are health visitors?
  5. What interaction and support should I expect from my local health visiting team?

 

About bathing my baby

  1. How do I bath my baby?
  2. Where should I bath my baby?
  3. How often should I bath my baby?
  4. What bath products should I use or avoid?
  5. How long should I wait before my baby’s first bath?

 

About changing my baby

  1. What should I know about baby poo?
  2. What should I consider when choosing wipes?
  3. What should I consider when choosing nappies?
  4. What should I know about changing my baby when I’m out and about?
  5. What other products are worth getting to make the changing process as smooth as possible?

 

About my baby’s nappy?

  1. How do I put it on a nappy?
  2. How do I know if the nappy is too tight?
  3. Would the nappy always contain everything?
  4. How do I know when to move up a nappy size?
  5. How long should I leave each nappy on my baby?

 

About my baby’s sleep

  1. What is sleep training about?
  2. What can I do to support my baby’s sleep?
  3. How does sleep work for babies after they are born?
  4. What basic things are helpful to know about baby sleep?
  5. What impact might the sleep pattern of my baby have on my sleep?

 

About my baby’s crying

  1. Why might my baby cry?
  2. How do I deal with my baby crying?
  3. What if my baby’s crying gets too much, what do I do?
  4. Can I recognise my baby’s different cries for different things?
  5. What do I do if my baby cries when I’m around other people?

 

About my baby’s clothes

  1. What baby clothes should I buy?
  2. How many baby clothes should I buy?
  3. Is it okay to buy preloved clothes for my baby?
  4. How do I know when to move up a clothe size?
  5. Is it okay to buy baby clothes made from coloured fabric?

 

About buggies

  1. How do I navigate stairs with a buggy?
  2. What are the main kinds of buggies available?
  3. What should I know about travelling with a buggy?
  4. What should I mainly consider when choosing a buggy?
  5. Where I’m I going to store my buggy when I’m not using it?

About key items to buy

  1. Where should I buy from?
  2. What should I avoid buying?
  3. What should I definitely buy?
  4. What is handy to buy that isn’t essential?
  5. What should I keep in mind when buying?

Over the next few months, I plan to share what I have since learnt about these questions; and I’ll definitely review them next time round.

This list is of course not exhaustive.

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Which questions would you add to this list? Which questions are you glad you knew the answers to before having your baby?

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My April 2015 #AtoZChallenge: Considering my Motherhood journey from A – Z

Introduction                                                    || Theme reveal

A is for Ardo Calyso Breast Pump: Top 5 || B for Breastfeeding: Top 5   || D for Dry Skin not Eczema  

C for Crawling baby Climbing Toddler      || E is for Exploring Toddler    || F is for Frugi: Top 5

G for Grapes in Baby Led Weaning            || H is for Hiccups                     || I is for Immunization

J is for Judging and Being Judged: 2 Key Lessons

K is for Keeping up with Motherhood: Top 5

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18 thoughts on “Questions To Ask Before Having a Baby

  1. This is a great list- I can’t think of anything to add….

    I knew quite a bit about breastfeefing through a previous job. It meant I knew about the breast feeding drop in clinic at the hospital and I sought help at 4 days for a slightly wonky latch rather than waiting until a real problem developed. I think that was a big advantage for me.

    I wish I’d known more about buggies: namely that a bulky travel system is not ideal if you use crowded bus routes a lot!

    I’m looking forward to your posts.
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    • Thanks so much for your comment. It’s so vital to get help as soon as possible with breastfeeding, isn’t it. I didn’t and my problems festered for weeks; what a fight I had to have for our breastfeeding relationship! As for buggies, I’ll definitely have gotten a different one if I knew then what I know now 🙂

      I look forward to your comments on my ‘answer’ posts. 🙂

    • Thanks for your lovely comment; it really made me smile. I think most woman are more laid back with the 2nd one; I suppose it’s not such a strange territory anymore even though every child is different. I’m glad reading this has been a positive refresher. All the best as you become mum for the 2nd time 🙂

  2. I love this list. I think it pretty much covers all the essential questions you need to help survive pregnancy and the first few months of having a baby.
    I was obsessed with reading things in my first pregnancy so I was armed with all the information I thought I would need. I’m pretty sure in my sleep deprived state I ignored most of it!
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    • Thanks for your lovely comment. I was the totally opposite; I just couldn’t look beyond any reality beyond my pregnancy state. In any case, nothing can quite prepare you for the shock to your system; however, to be forewarned is to be forearmed, to a certain extent anyway. 🙂

  3. I’d say that was a very comprehensive list my lovely! I think I would add, what should I do if my baby doesn’t sleep in the evening and what is colic all about? Also, what should I do if breast feeding doesn’t work for me? Both things I needed to know about! Xx

  4. These are all great questions. Besides acquiring knowledge of pregnancy and baby care, I think every expectant Mom needs to learn skills to deal with the inevitable stresses of parenthood. I for one won’t have children because I won’t be able to handle the stress. I know that post-partum mental illness can happen to anyone, but for someone who is already mentally ill, there are increased risks. I could find ht eanswers to all of these questions but sitll not be prepared for motherhood. #thelist
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    • Thanks for your comment; I really appreciate it. You’ve made really good points; I’m not sure anything can really prepare you fully for the parenting road. But I suppose, we could take time to find out a little bit to help us on the road. All the best on your life’s journey.

    • Thanks for dropping by, and for your lovely comment. All the very best with breastfeeding the 2nd time round. I should be doing a post about breastfeeding support / resources soon; It’s so important to know where to get immediate help if needed. 🙂

  5. There really are so many questions when you are a new mum aren’t there? I thought I was really quite prepared before giving birth to Monkey but the reality still hit me like a sledgehammer. While many things are known second time round, I still found the early months with LM difficult as all babies are different and there is still so much learning to do! Definitely helps to have as much information as possible though I think so it is a good list! Thanks for linking with #MaternityMondays xx
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    • There really are; I don’t think one could be fully prepared even if all the right questions were asked and answered. A grandparent once told me that the parenting is a university you never graduate from! To be forewarned is to be forearmed; at least to some extent. Thanks for your linky, and for commenting 🙂

  6. What a great and thorough set of questions – you’ve got it covered! It is such a strange and wonderful time 🙂 All my questions were about the birth and how to manage that – it all went out the window when I was actually in labour though, no soundtrack, no candles – just pacing, lots of pacing!

    Thanks for linking up to #TheList xx
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    • Thanks Hannah. I can imagine them flying out of the window in the heat of the moment when you just need to do what you just need to do! However, I hope your findings beforehand helped in some way to reduce the amount of concern you might have had about that special moment 🙂

  7. Ah fab post! And so easy to ask the questions in hindsight isn’t it? I always remark that during a pregnancy I spend so much time thinking of the here and now and being pregnant that I forget to focus on the baby at the end of it!
    Thanks for linking up to #MaternityMatters x x x
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    • Thanks for your comment. It sure is easy to ask questions in hindsight; I couldn’t connect with much beyond my pregnancy, until the baby arrived!These questions and more and ones I wish I had explored beforehand; all in hindsight of course 🙂

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