Lovely Things in May

I have so many writing ideas to record snippets of my life for Precious Sparkle and I continue to work on how to do this efficiently and effectively. I have decided to join in with the monthly lovely things linky as one of the ways to structure some of my documentation of aspects of my daily life.

Faith

It’s lovely knowing God’s help through this month.

May is my most hectic month at work, with majority of the external exams I prepare students for happening within days of each other. This May is like no other May I’ve had in my working life. I am juggling being mummy to a toddler and all that comes with it, whilst preparing 4 groups of students for external exams and more for internal assessments.

So, making it through the month in one piece is really lovely!

Family

Precious Sparkle’s growth never ceases to amaze me; and his language development has especially stopped me in my tracks many times this month. ‘When did he start saying that?’, is a reoccurring question in our home now. It blows my mind away to hear him say words that we both understand; it really is lovely to hear him communicate more and more.

Lots of fives in my birthday this year; the lovely month of May is when I particularly remember how old I am. We didn’t do anything spectacular; my lovely friend, Lottie, made sure I got many ‘happy birthday’ comments at work.

Lovely Things in May | #lovelythings | Recording snippets of my lovelies; happy points and happy moments. | http://adventuresofanovicemum.co.uk | @aNoviceMumEvery card was a pleasant surprise, I’m not one to expect people to remember my birthday or give me anything to celebrate it. I really … really like my husband’s present this year, and I will be using it more than any of the ones he has give me in the past (post to follow).

How lovely to be surrounded by so much love and people to celebrate with it.

Friends

Lovely texts to say happy birthday … phone calls to ask about my wellbeing … catching up after the service on Sunday … listening to tales about my blog after work … viewing my pictures with me … nothing spectacular but vital acts to make life more lovely. It is so lovely to have friends who care so much.

Blogging

I started my #SoMeBlogLuv easy peasy linky. It hasn’t taken off like I hoped but I’ve glad to have stepped out of my blogging comfort zone in this way. I have much work ahead to cultivate it and I hope it works out.

I’m finally doing more with Instagram and the 2 daily photography challenges I participated in were so instrumental in this. I’m increasingly finding my rhythm with the kind and quality of pictures to share, their squaring when taken with my bridge camera and © labelling using picmonkey. It is lovely to see some progress on my blogging road, albeit not as fast as I’d like.

It was my 6 months blogiversary this month; I still can’t believe it and I really should write about it soon.

Work

All my external exam groups but one have now completed their exams. I really hope they do very well and that all their effort is rewarded. I must say that it is very lovely to see them through such important years in their education so far. I am looking forward to being less tense and working at a slower-ish pace for the rest of the term.

So many lovely things in May, less than I can remember, I’m sure. I think I’ll make notes as I go through June so that I can capture more loveliness.

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What are some of your lovely things from May?
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Lovely Things

Working Mum: My Struggles

W is for Working Mum: My Struggles

Working full-time after becoming a mum is much harder than I thought. I actually didn’t think it would be hard. I grew up in an environment where my mum worked; so, working and being a mum wasn’t an issue for me. However, the nature of my mum’s working environment was such that she could see us often when we were little. She worked for my dad and she had help; so she was able to take us to work for a period of time after her maternity leave.

I wish I could take Precious Sparkle to work, but I can’t. I have to leave him every morning during the week to help other children on their life’s journey.

His goodbyes

I don’t remember the date but I remember the first time he bid me goodbye; oh, how my heart rose and sank at the same time! I was at once delighted to hear him say another word, but also sad that he knew I was leaving him and that he could verbally acknowledge it in a way that I understood. 🙁 I find it intriguing that he still says, ‘bye’, or ‘bye bye’ on days he can’t see me leave, and just before I get to the front door. ‘How does he know I’m leaving the house’, I’ve wondered at those times.

He has grown increasingly alright with me leaving in the morning and we’ve learnt to manage it better to soothe away any sadness. I suppose it’s partly my fault when he gets upset about it. I have a tendency to linger at my goodbyes to him. I find it so hard to tear myself away from his side, and to stop holding his hands and looking at his cute little face. I sometimes feel my heart breaking as I walk away from him to leave the house; what a heart-sink moment!

Playing catch-up

Unlike before, bringing marking and planning tasks home to do in the evenings and on weekends are not guaranteed options of making progress with my school work. It’s hard to do much when Precious Sparkle is awake; and you know, I’m glad this is the case. I’m glad for him to have a lot of my attention. He is only going to be at this stage for so long, and sharing it all with him is so enriching; what a privilege!

This of course means that I play ‘catch-up’ more than ever before; and I’m constantly looking for pockets of time to get things done. Not as much gets done as I would like :-(. The middle of the nights are also not free from interruptions; mummy’s milk is called upon quite a bit, sometimes more than mummy would choose. 🙂 And of course there is sleep; yeah … sleep … it has to happen sometime … it needs to happy much longer than it currently does.

New words and actions without me

I enjoy hearing him say new words and do new things, but I feel so disappointed when I find out that he has been saying or doing some of them for a few days. It makes me feel like crying sometimes. I want to be there at the start of all his new words and actions BUT I can’t. I can’t be there for him at ALL the moments I consider to be important in his development, and I’m learning to come to terms with this.

I am learning to stop feeling denied of what seemed like my right as his mum. I’m learning to really cherish ALL our moments together, even more so now that I’m not in most of his moments during the week. I’m learning to accept that this is our lives at this point and that it’s best to make the most of what we have instead of focusing on what we don’t. I remind myself that the time I have outside of work should not be wasted on wishing I was there, but rather invested in being FULLY there.

Some respite

I’m very fortunate that I work really close to home, and I’m able to leave work at lunch times to breastfeed Precious Sparkle. On the days his afternoon naps run over, I’m of the view that it’s better not to wake a sleeping baby; I instead go home earlier after school finishes.

His attempt to run into my arms with loud giggles when I arrive home at lunch and after work helps a lot; they are massive heart-rise moments. They make my leaving home feel that much better. Seriously, I’ve never known anyone so happy to see me over and over again. It amazes and amuses me, and I can’t get over it. It makes me feel so important and so very special; and it makes our ‘reunion’ full of so much joy.

I don’t feel any guilt for working; the bills have to be paid and working is a good thing. When the time comes, I want Precious Sparkle to know the value of work and I intend to cultivate a very good work ethic in him as the opportunity arises.

Nonetheless, I must say that I work because I have to work; there isn’t much I can do about it. Perhaps my dream of becoming a pro-blogger will come true someday, and I can then run my business from home 🙂 . If I didn’t have to work, I might still work part-time in my teaching job anyway. I enjoy teaching though there’s also much I don’t like about it. I’ll confront the ‘want to work’ issue if and when it happens.

I continue to work through my working mum struggles.

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Do you struggle as a working mum / dad? If not, do you struggle with juggling work with other important things in your life?

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My April 2015 #AtoZChallenge: Considering my Motherhood journey from A – Z

Introduction                                                    || Theme reveal

A is for Ardo Calyso Breast Pump: Top 5 || B for Breastfeeding: Top 5   || D for Dry Skin not Eczema  

C for Crawling baby Climbing Toddler      || E is for Exploring Toddler    || F is for Frugi: Top 5

G for Grapes in Baby Led Weaning            || H is for Hiccups                     || I is for Immunization

J is for Judging and Being Judged: 2 Key Lessons                      || K is for Keeping Up With Motherhood

Q is for Qestions To Ask Before Having  A Baby

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